Open Question: is it possible to get a home loan after getting a bankruptcy. I am a teacher and finished bk about a year ago? February 9th, 2010
Open Question: To parents that have adopted? February 9th, 2010
I am getting ready to begin the journey of adoption and have many questions. Tomorrow I am calling my chosen agency for all the answers. I have a few, though, I would like to ask real adoptive parents out there knowing the answers are coming from a reliable source.
1. Is it hard to get an adoption low interest loan or grant and if you know, what are the requirements?
2. Must I go through a full medical exam in order to be able to adopt through an agency?
3. Can a birth mother change her mind once I bring my baby home and paperwork is completed?
(I heard before she can change her mind for up to six months)
4. Are the wait periods really between 2-5 years?
5. Is adopting a US infant hard?
6. Do I need to go to court for anything during the process?
7. What does the homestudy consist of and what can go wrong?
8. Must I be married?
9. Are the chances they will adopt a newborn to me lesser due to being age 21?
Thank you so much for any information answers!!
Open Question: two house, primary in foreclosure, same lender? February 9th, 2010
WE LIVE IN NEVADA.
MY PRIMARY HOUSE WILL PROBABLY GO SOON IN FORECLOSURE.
BOUGHT IT IN 2004. LATER WE REFINANCED IT WITH CASH OUT WHICH WE USED FOR IMPROVEMENTS, POOL, ETC. THE NEW LOAN WAS INTEREST ONLY, 30 YEAR. AFTER MY HUSBAND ACCIDENT IN 2008 EVERYTHING WENT DOWN THE HILL.
WE HAVE A 2ND SMALLER HOUSE, THAT WAS OUR PRIMARY HOUSE BEFORE 2004. WHEN WE MOVED TO THE HOUSE #1, WE RENTED HOUSE #2,… UNTIL 3 MONTH AGO.
IF OUR PRIMARY HOUSE FORECLOSES, WE’ LL MOVE TO THE 2ND HOUSE. THE LOAN IN THIS ONE ES FIXED, 30 YEARS, WE KEEP UP WITH THE PAYMENTS. NO PROBLEMS.
LAST WEEK WE FOUND OUT THAT THE LENDER OF HOME #1, (ACTUAL PRIMARY AND IN TROUBLE) NOW IS THE NEW OWNER OF THE LOAN ON HOUSE #2. I WONDER IF THEY CAN PUT A LIEN IN THIS OTHER PROPERTY.
WE ARE DESPERATELY, PLEASE ADVISE,
SUE
Open Question: Should I repair the transmission or look at getting a new car? February 9th, 2010
My car just recently had issues where I had parked, turned it off. Came back out to the car two minutes later and started the car up without any problems and then put it into reverse and backed out of the parking space and then put the car into drive and hit the gas pedal. All that happened from me pressing the gas pedal was the engine revving up and acting like it was in neutral. I wasn’t able to do much from there, so I put it back into reverse and backed it up into a different parking spot and left it there until I got it towed home.
Now the question is should I get it towed to a mechanic and see how much it would cost for repairs and go down that road or should I think about selling the car to a junk yard. The car is 2000 Hyundai Tiburon. I also just put 4 new tires on it, just replaced the alternator and battery about two months ago, everything else about the car is in good shape and it has about 140,000 miles on it. Would it make sense to put the money in the car and keep it running or think about scrapping it and taking out a loan to get some form of new/used car?
Open Question: My boyfriend is over-involved w/his ex(w/whom he has children) and now his mother want her 2 spend the night.? February 9th, 2010
So this is a long and bizarre story.
I have known this guy for seventeen years an prior to our romantic involvement that started less than two years ago, I had no interest in him although he has always liked me.
We are in our thirties now. I have a 10 yr. old from a previous relationship. We have always been friends however had huge gaps in our correspondence because I had a child, he went away to college, worked nightshift and got married.
When we were 27(we are the same age) he got a seventeen yr. old girl pregnant and married her. It turned out to be a tumultous marriage. She physically abused him while he was in the military and living on base. She would hurt him and them call the police. She drank heavily, partied, cheated on him(even took out a loan for a lover putting up the family car for collateral). The biggest deal though was that she hid an entire pregnancy from him. They had already been married, had one child (who was 20 months old at siblings conception), and one abortion they both participated in. He was deployed part of the time. She didn’t even tell her identical twin or mother(with whom she is close) that she was pregnant even though she moved back home to live and work with him during part of the deployment. She sought no medical attention even though it was free. Her first baby had been born via emergency C-section. She told no one she was pregnancy and also did not seek alternative care. She also binge-drank vodka on several occasions. In fact she came back home w/him when she was seven and a half months, and attended a large party thrown by his parents for her older child, surrounded by multiple relatives and told nobody. Two months later he is in one of his training classes and is pulled out by a superior and told his wife is going into labor. He is not sure if this baby is his, she looks NOTHING like her sister but he raises her as his own.
She assumes he is involved with me one day(which he isn’t) and sends me multiple harassing and vulgar text messages.
Anyway, after the delivery, 14 months later he comes home for a three week leave on a fifteen month tour and she tells him she doesn’t love him anymore and wants a divorce. He is devastated but eventually relents. He and I are not involved at this point. She makes harassing phone calls to me. He asks her about it. She denies it.
They are now divorced. In 2008, they arranged a custody agreement for him to have the children five days a week. They come back from their mother’s home disheveled and often dirty. They look tacky(but she doesn’t), their hair is unbrushed and their nails overgrown with dirt underneath. This is amongst other neglectful behaviors.
His mother becomes very angry with the ex daughter in-law because she has taken them on weekends when he is in Iraq and witnesses their commonly unacceptable appearance and mannerisms. When son returns(after leaving military for good to be with his children), he and his mother have a huge falling out due to his renewed relationship w/his children now that he will no longer have to be away from them. His mother have previously hated his ex-wife due to the wife squandering thousands(of husband’s and mother-in-law’s money), hateful, disrespectful language from the ex-wife, and continued neglect of the children. His mother decided to have bad will against me because I was an emotionally supportive friend of his and as he spent more time with his children, she seemed to become angrier.
Well, I became pregnant. He and I now live together and have a child together. His ex-wife repeatedly calls her ex-husband for trivial matters even though she continues to neglect the children. She also repeatedly invited him for dinner. We reside in the old neighborhood in which I grew up. She invited him to go trick-or-treating with her(but didn’t invite me) and said to him she would love to go trick-or-treating in my neighborhood but didn’t want to run into me. He said nothing to her about this. She also has said disrespectful things about me to the children. He has said nothing about this. I have continually cared(meaning I take care of them)for her children by him in spite of the ugly way she has treated me. I have given them baths, have done their hair, dressed them, taken them to different activities, read to them. I don’t expect praise. I just know that all children need to feel loved. I also do not speak poorly about her to the children. It is clear she is emotionally unstable though.
The year where his mother stopped speaking to him, she then decided to like his ex-wife again.
I now have a baby with him(I know). I decided to let bygones be bygones and let her meet her grandchild. His mother trivializes the abuse the wife has enacted against her son and overlooks the neglect she enacts towards the grandchildren.
His ex-wife told him about the last time she had sex, how she was pregnant last year. It i
Blending a family is an investment, right? I have my problems with this guy(who I am planning on leaving). We have are own problems. However if he was hitting her, it would not be trivialized as just a “flaw”. When CPS, was called on her, the case was closed. People don’t like to think of women as abusers. I can see, as an abuse vitime, he appears to be relating to her the same way as in marriage-as a vitime-walking on eggshells. However I think he sends her mixed messages and he thinks he doesn’t. He spent Thanksgiving in her family’s home, he attended a birthday party with her, went to his child’s school event with her. I understand, that it is important to get along for the sake of the children, but she uses the children to have a relationship with her. She gets irritated that he doesn’t spend more time with her. How is telling him the last time she had sex have anything to do with the children? His mother abused him, so it isn’t surprising he stayed with a woman who did
I mean she uses the children to have a relationship with him. He doesn’t see it as inappropriate to text her at an odd hour or talk to her late at night, unrelated to the children. Also, he said when it comes to his mother offering her to spend the night, it is “none” of his business even though his Mom told him to tell it to her. Also, less than 1% of women conceal pregnancies to that degree, so it would appear to be more than just simply a “flaw”.
He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning.
He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning.
Open Question: First Home Buyers Loan.? February 9th, 2010
My fiance and I are planning to buy a house at the start of next year, after we get married. We are both quite young. What sorts of questions should we ask the different agencies and what things should we be aware of?
We also live in Australia. Thank you.
Open Question: Does a co-buyer on a first time purchase qualify for this tax credit? February 9th, 2010
Me & my boyfriend purchased a home togther. We are still not married. He does not qualify as a first time buyer but I do. I am only on the lease as the co-buyer though. Does this make a difference?
He has purchased homes in the past, while I have not. Does this only apply to the main person on the loan? Are there any benefits to being a co-buyer for a first timer?
Open Question: I would like to buy a home, I lost my job, but i’m back working again. how long before I could get approved? February 9th, 2010
I have been working for 5 yrs straight. Lost my job, unemployed for about five months, and I am back working.. Would I get approved for a loan in six months?
Open Question: How to control my anger for BIL &SIL who borrowed money from my DH and have not payed us back? February 9th, 2010
About a year ago my DH loaned his brother and our SIL $2000. They needed the money to move out of state. They were kicked out of thier previous rental home for reasons unknown but I am sure it was financial. MY BIL called and begged for the money and needed the money ASAP. My DH felt obligated to help his only sibling however like me we knew that my BIL & SIL are not responsible when it comes to anything especially money. MY BIL was desperate and so my DH decided to take a chance and “loan’ them the money with the understanding that they would pay it back in monthly installments. We had to take the money to loan them out out our bank and explained to him that after 6 months there would be interest involved. He agreed and advised us that he had a good job waiting for him in his new city as well as one for his wife/SIL. Well of course they moved and we never heard from them. We did locate them eventyally and they ignored our emails, calls regarding the payback money. We eventually got a check for $50 which bounced! After another 5 mths of asking for payment we got a money order for $25 only with a note saying that they would be paying us $150 monthly…which was fine with us. Then again nothing from them. My husband send another email/letter with the breakdown of what they owe etc… We just got another money order for $15 only and no note. I understand that money may be tight but their lack of communication is what bothers us the most. What would you do? I know we should probably just write it off but I can’t take their facebook updates of what they are up to with going out, buying iphones, trying to concieve etc. We are their family and I am sick of being treated like the enemy from them. advice?
Open Question: Looking to buy my 1st house…have some questions.? February 9th, 2010
Hello everyone.
I am currently looking to buy my 1st home!
I’m at the point where I have pre-qualified and am about to speak with a realtor in a couple days and look at houses.
Now I’ll have alot of questions for my realtor when I see her so I guess I’ll ask some now so I have some knowledge of some things.
I’m going to be using an FHA loan.
Is there any way of lowering the closing costs? Either by financing it into the mortgage or another way?
Also, if I already did my tax return this year will I be able to get the First Time Home Buyer Credit when everything is done and I move into my home? If so, what will I have to do to get it ASAP?
Thanks.
I’ll find a house before March.
You have to close by June 30th not April… you sign by April 30th, then the 2 months to close.
